Recently, I was talking with a mom whose son is having some emotional and behavioral issues. She wishes she had a better understanding of why he’s struggling, but her husband is adamant that they not have him tested. Dad doesn’t want his son to have the stigma of a label. Who does? He’s not the … More What’s in a Label?
One of the hardest aspects of parenting a child who struggles is that we don’t always know how to help. We can scour the internet late into the evening, looking for resources, insights and advice. We can seek out relationships with professionals. We can confer with other parents who have had a similar experience. We … More Steering Away from Guilt
In our bones we need the natural curves of hills, the scent of chapparal, the whisper of pines, the possibility of wildness. We require these patches of nature for our mental health and our spiritual resilience. – Richard Louv Yesterday I was getting that frazzled feeling you get when you’re thinking about everything that needs … More Scented Escapes
The Boston Marathon was a rainy, chilly, hypothermia kind of day this year. Some might have called it miserable, but that wasn’t the common sentiment. Instead, there were loads of fan posters that pointed out the bright side, with messages like this: ‘At least you’re not at work.’ ‘At least you won’t have to shower … More Reframing: 3 Powerful Ways to Change Your Parenting Outlook
My family lobbied me for a dog for YEARS before I broke down and agreed to get one. I know it sounds heartless, but I just didn’t think I could be a dog person. The idea of stinky breath in my face, slobber on the sofa, vacuuming fur and picking up poops made me cringe. … More Zen and the Art of Emulating My Dog
Just a few days after the horrific shooting at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida, CNN hosted a town hall discussion with families, local politicians, law enforcement and a NRA spokeswoman. Amidst the profound anguish, what struck me was the language the NRA representative used to describe the gunman. He was a “madman”. … More How Parents Can Stave off Stigma
“You should really take care of yourself…” “Put your own oxygen mask on first…” We hear advice like this all the time, but many of us choose to dismiss it, or cringe, or rebel. What makes self-care such a turn-off? “Indulgent” I’ve been casually surveying parents of children who struggle (with anything that requires extra … More Does the Concept of Self-Care Make You Cringe?
Years ago, when I was feeling concerned about my son’s future, my husband looked at me and said, “So what if he ends up working on a St. Bernard farm? He’d be happy!” The concept was so unexpected it made me laugh (at age 7, our son loved St. Bernards). It also brought about an … More Radical Thinking about Acceptance
Commercials make the back-to-school process look so carefree. Arm in arm, parents and smiling children pop into big-box stores for pencils and notebooks, maybe a new outfit or backpack… and off they go! If only… For some of us whose kids need extra support, or have a hard time with transitions, this time of year … More Stress Less – Back to School and Any Time – with a Mantra Boost