Recently, I was talking with a mom whose son is having some emotional and behavioral issues. She wishes she had a better understanding of why he’s struggling, but her husband is adamant that they not have him tested. Dad doesn’t want his son to have the stigma of a label. Who does? He’s not the … More What’s in a Label?
One of the hardest aspects of parenting a child who struggles is that we don’t always know how to help. We can scour the internet late into the evening, looking for resources, insights and advice. We can seek out relationships with professionals. We can confer with other parents who have had a similar experience. We … More Steering Away from Guilt
The Boston Marathon was a rainy, chilly, hypothermia kind of day this year. Some might have called it miserable, but that wasn’t the common sentiment. Instead, there were loads of fan posters that pointed out the bright side, with messages like this: ‘At least you’re not at work.’ ‘At least you won’t have to shower … More Reframing: 3 Powerful Ways to Change Your Parenting Outlook
Just a few days after the horrific shooting at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida, CNN hosted a town hall discussion with families, local politicians, law enforcement and a NRA spokeswoman. Amidst the profound anguish, what struck me was the language the NRA representative used to describe the gunman. He was a “madman”. … More How Parents Can Stave off Stigma
Do you ever feel isolated, like you’re the only one whose child has challenges? I remember walking through the halls of my son’s elementary school, imagining that nobody else had to worry about having a tough drop off, or that they might get a call from a flustered administrator later in the day. I was … More 5 Simple Ways to Build a Village – for Yourself
“You should really take care of yourself…” “Put your own oxygen mask on first…” We hear advice like this all the time, but many of us choose to dismiss it, or cringe, or rebel. What makes self-care such a turn-off? “Indulgent” I’ve been casually surveying parents of children who struggle (with anything that requires extra … More Does the Concept of Self-Care Make You Cringe?
Shattering Self-Care Myths A few years ago, I went to a workshop for parents of children who face developmental, behavioral, and mental health challenges. The topic was “How to Be an Effective Advocate”, but near the end of the session, the leader said she wanted to take some time to discuss self-care. As she began … More Have We Been Brainwashed to Sacrifice Ourselves?