One of the hardest aspects of parenting a child who struggles is that we don’t always know how to help. We can scour the internet late into the evening, looking for resources, insights and advice. We can seek out relationships with professionals. We can confer with other parents who have had a similar experience. We … More Steering Away from Guilt
Last week a mom posted a powerful video about her frustrating IEP meeting. Parked in front of a CVS with her camera on the dash, she gave the world a peek into a very personal and agonizing moment. Through tears and deep breaths, comedian Dena Blizzard expressed her anger, sadness, and sense of powerlessness in … More Never Stop Advocating for Your Kids… or Being Kind to Yourself
“You should really take care of yourself…” “Put your own oxygen mask on first…” We hear advice like this all the time, but many of us choose to dismiss it, or cringe, or rebel. What makes self-care such a turn-off? “Indulgent” I’ve been casually surveying parents of children who struggle (with anything that requires extra … More Does the Concept of Self-Care Make You Cringe?
Years ago, when I was feeling concerned about my son’s future, my husband looked at me and said, “So what if he ends up working on a St. Bernard farm? He’d be happy!” The concept was so unexpected it made me laugh (at age 7, our son loved St. Bernards). It also brought about an … More Radical Thinking about Acceptance
Commercials make the back-to-school process look so carefree. Arm in arm, parents and smiling children pop into big-box stores for pencils and notebooks, maybe a new outfit or backpack… and off they go! If only… For some of us whose kids need extra support, or have a hard time with transitions, this time of year … More Stress Less – Back to School and Any Time – with a Mantra Boost
Have you noticed that we seem to be in the midst of a stress epidemic? Many of us have been conditioned to be productive, forever multi-tasking as we ignore any distress signals from our minds and bodies. If your child struggles, the stress load is even greater. Whether your child is dealing with learning and … More Three Micro-Actions to Start Neutralizing Stress Today
Shattering Self-Care Myths A few years ago, I went to a workshop for parents of children who face developmental, behavioral, and mental health challenges. The topic was “How to Be an Effective Advocate”, but near the end of the session, the leader said she wanted to take some time to discuss self-care. As she began … More Have We Been Brainwashed to Sacrifice Ourselves?